Matt Coldagelli

Matt Coldagelli (’14) majored in English writing and psychology at Calvin. He’s currently pursuing a doctorate in clinical psychology with an emphasis on children and adolescents. He watches an absurd amount of TV and is a certified craft beer snob. His emotional wellbeing is overly dependent on Wisconsin sports, and thus he finds himself often in a state of disappointment. Matt lives with his lovely wife and daughter in Phoenix, AZ.

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Baby Talk

The man: “Wow, how great. Now you be sure to take super special care of that beautiful baby. What’s her name?”

Sounds of Salamá

From the kitchen comes the pitter-patter of the pressure cooker, rap tap tapping, hissing spurts of steam, signaling that something delectable will be on the table at the next meal—most likely black beans.

The Butterfly Effect

Not only did this miscreant have the gall to stop far too distant from the proper spot, he had the utter audacity to hesitate and linger when the blessed green light at last showered itself onto us lowly plebeians.


We are incessantly inundated with tips, narratives, and guidelines for how to be sexy.


Teenagers, though, go right for the emotional jugular, draining self-esteem and confidence dry and leaving a husk of a defeated therapist.

Discovering Self-Compassion

But that’s not the world we actually inhabit, so why do we continue to encourage kids to engage in these comparisons? And why are we so terrified of negative emotions?

Beware of Dog

Before you plunge the pitchforks into my gut and toss the torches on my belongings, hear me out.

Anticipation and Imagination

Shrouded in myth, internship was spoken of in the same way people talk about Voldemort: they act as if it’s taboo, but they all secretly love to spread their anxiety and feel a bit naughty.

Coffee and Ants

The winged six-legged something-or-other was diligently scaling the coffee shop window, which was thick with the moist mess of condensation.

Bootleg Baby

We’ve since come to realize that there’s no perfect way to feel while pregnant. There’s not an emotional experience you’re supposed to have.


It’s one thing to order pork or enchiladas, but I’ve reached a level of fluency where I want to take my skills beyond family and friends.


This balancing act bestows a lot of power on therapists. It also becomes a breeding ground for callousness.