The very hard thing I am learning right now—about race, and about myself—is that the rules I have been living by are not very good ones.
Katie is a doctoral student in English and education at the University of Michigan. She loves the New York Times crossword puzzle, advice columns, oceans, and dogs of all kinds.
Moral courage and curiosity means listening to yourself: where did this idea come from? Why am I moved to defend it?
It is so hard, in the midst of it, to see online dating as anything other than a means to an end—but it became much more palatable for me once I began to understand it as a life stage in its own right.
I am not sure how to accurately convey the unpleasantness of this experience. There was no part of my body that went gentle into that good night.