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Monthly Archives: June 2018

Blessed Are the Sexual Predators

Let me offer this advice to future Church leaders: when adopting stances towards public figures, be consistent, or be honest.

Let Your Yes Be OH YES!

There are a few things I thought about (as well as a few things I wish I had thought about) by the time I first had sex. Maybe a conversation about the real definition can start there.

To Be Intimate

Or to put it another way: what happens when marriage comes to be defined by the promise of sex?

2001: A Sex Odyssey

Condoms were occasionally brought up with a scoff and a smirk. Believing that condoms were good for anything was credulity on par with believing the earth is flat.

Learning to Speak

Weekly we repeated the words. Gender is not the same as sex.

How the Church Talks

And you know what happens next? An adulterous Samaritan woman becomes history’s first recorded evangelist. Church, can we talk about that?

Purity

Purity

by | Jun 14, 2018

I think there is a divine vision at the root of “purity” that remains a potent challenge today: that apart from oneself, on the other end of every sexual encounter is another self equally as mysterious and indefinable as existence.

Terrified of the One-Eyed Snake

Terrified of the One-Eyed Snake

Peak Allison Janney right here, but with numerous parental triggers: “engorged,” “testicle retrieval,” “heinous bitch,” and of course, “Reginald’s quivering member.”

Just One

Just One

I know some churches are trying. “Singles group” is a thing. But really? That’s depressing on a good day, patronizing on a bad one.

God’s Orgasm

God’s Orgasm

Why do we expect God to be sexually pure? As a woman, it’s fun to realize God and I have that in common.

If God is Love

If God is Love

Your body is not your enemy. And if you think it is, then treat it like an enemy: love it. Do good to it. Bless it. Pray for it.

The Sex Talk I Never Had

The Sex Talk I Never Had

Could my parents have admitted they were too busy or uncomfortable to teach me? Yes.
Am I mad, bro? No.

A Christian Teenager’s Guide to Resisting Temptation

A Christian Teenager’s Guide to Resisting Temptation

To the Church’s credit, I did not have premarital sex as a teenager. But there was also a lot of damage done.

A Letter to My Daughter (Should I Have One)

A Letter to My Daughter (Should I Have One)

Wear your womanhood however you prefer. Wear it as a low-cut tank top and your short-shorts in the park, drinking lemonade.

Condom Nation

Condom Nation

Those who drive sex education policies, it would seem, care more about ideology than accuracy—more about ideology, in fact, than effectiveness, teen moms, or lifelong diseases, either.

Sex: A Knowing

Sex: A Knowing

Daunted by the rightness of wrong, by the wrongness of right, by the thought that this is the nature of knowledge we inherit.

In a Day or Two

In a Day or Two

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t hope for an afterlife like that—one where everything is shiny and my partner and I look like we’re thirty for the rest of our lives.

Look at the Women

Look at the Women

You want to talk about how to teach young girls to love themselves? Or to believe that their bodies are temples, and not objects of shame?

Sex: A Reading List

Sex: A Reading List

Nagoski takes a thoroughly researched, science-based approach to dispel myths about female sexuality and to explain how the body and mind are inextricable in all things to do with relationships.

Virginity: An Education

Virginity: An Education

Chapter 8: Religious Studies II
“There is no such thing as a condom for the heart. Once you have had sex, you are never quite the same.”
-“Pure Again,” Focus on the Family